Hey, Kareem Abdul-Jabbar… tell us how you really feel!
In his piece, Kareem (above left, shown next to this year’s Bachelor, Nick Viall) goes after everything you’d imagine, like the racial controversies surrounding the show, and the unattainable, unrealistic beauty standards the reality TV staple puts upon the women competing for love.
“The shows’ mantra repeated by most cast members that ‘everyone deserves love’ ain’t necessarily so. You’re not even in the running for love unless you fit a very narrow ideal of Ken and Barbie doll physical beauty. These shows promote the scorched-earth effects of raising females to be continually judged physically above all other attributes and then measured against impossible physical standards that has marginalized a majority of girls and women and made billions for the beauty products, clothing, and cosmetic surgery industries. Even youthful Amanda Stanton, 26, admits to using Botox.”
The former hoops star (and, as THR notes, ‘cultural critic’) continues, writing:
“But equally harmful as the cartoonish physical and mental restrictions has been the romanticizing of love as a mystical process that creates unrealistic expectations. Worse, they encourage an urgency to falling in love or else being kicked off the show and labeled a loser in society, unworthy of love. This can send a message that those not in a relationship need to hurry up and find someone anyone or else face an unforgiving expiration date of love worthiness.”
And after going through examples of how not to fall in love on the show — like JoJo Fletcher and Jordan Rodgers, or Amanda Stanton and Josh Murray — the former Los Angeles Lakers star readies for his big finish!
In concluding, in part, Abdul-Jabbar writes:
“The Bachelor/Bachelorette shows could be an informative social mirror that exposes the basic cracks in how Americans glamorize romance and as such could be part of the cure … but, unfortunately, we tend to take the premise seriously and form camps around contestants, rooting for them to be chosen to get the engagement ring as we would root for our hometown team to win the championship ring. The fact that most of these relationships eventually wither when not nourished by the lights and cameras reveals just how much of a fantasy it all is. The real danger is when we try to apply that fantasy thinking to our own lives. And when we think about where our children learn about the realities of romance, it becomes even more important to question what may influence their behavior in choosing a partner.”
Obviously, considering this comes the very day of the season premiere of Nick’s turn as The Bachelor is a head scratcher… because it only reminds people to tune in tonight! LOLz!!
And Kareem makes some good points, but misses one most obvious: many people aren’t watching this show rooting for somebody, but instead tuning in to watch the train wreck of awful attempts at love!
Either way, the former NBA star didn’t hold back.
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